13 year old dating advice
(08/27/2007) By ELRJ Yes, 13 is too young to "go out", but times have changed. DD14 will be turning 15 soon and has a "boyfriend". Personally, I found your request a bit amusing simply because I'm the mother of a 13 year old boy who "doesn't have a girlfriend". Some of his little friends "have girlfriends", and I think at times he feels left out.
Personally our rule is no "dating" until you are 16. Yes, I think 13 is too young to be dating, but to simply be "talking" (as some of the young folks say) is okay (i.e. I think this is a normal part of socialization and as long as the situation remains innocent (talking only and with time limits, phone curfew, etc.), it'll be okay. We as parents can only hope we instill enough in our children for them to make good choices.
My parents didn't so I looked for love elsewhere.
Needless to say, at 46, I now know the joys of pure friendship without the emotional strings that come attached with love. Sharon (08/26/2007) By sharon weidensaul Yes, it's too young. I had a lot of boyfriends, and started "dating" in 6th grade.
“We call it group dating, and we believe it can be really healthy and protective,” says Jennifer Connolly, a psychology professor at York University in Toronto who specializes in teen relationships.
Connolly, who has two adolescent daughters of her own, says that group dating is growing in popularity everywhere, including China and India.
It is quite eye opening that starting down a path that even she doesn't understand at this point could take her places she doesn't really want to go.
Encourage her that there is plenty of time later for boys, and let her get more involved in a hobby, sport, activity, or interest instead. I think "having a boyfriend" can mean different things to different people.
With traditional one-to-one relationships, Connolly says, things tend to escalate much more quickly, simply because the couple is spending a lot of time alone.
It is young for a dedicated relationship, but not for a relaxed teaming up in an adolescent society. My mom and I didn't and still don't at age 36. He told me he doesn't like her like that and I do believe him. I always had lots of male family members my age, and I was comfortable having lots of male friends.
Meanwhile, relax; teens luckily grow out of it by age 20. As people have said, having a boyfriend means different things to different age groups so maybe you should find out what she thinks it means. This dating thing is an issue for me and it's something I have to put deep thought into because I was a teen parent. Since having boys around was never an issue with my parents, it was never an issue with me.
The only reason I piped up on this is because I lost my virginity just after turning 14 because my mom never discussed things like that with me. I had my twins at 19, but my mom was strict until I was 17. I want my sons to know that they can talk to me about anything and when the "sex talk" does come up I will explain to them just how expensive children are. It seems like parenting is much harder when your children become preteens and teenagers. And I certainly never felt like I had to be rebellious and date someone just to tick off mom and dad, because I don't think it would have. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you should downplay the boyfriend issue.
I'm sure she didn't think she needed to at such an early age, but never the less it happened and it is something I wish I could change. I didn't even know she was meeting this older boy till she told me she was pregnant. (01/20/2008) By Tanya By No, I think that it is the perfect age for a girl to talk to boys. I wouldn't forbid it, because that would make it a "Big Deal" all of a sudden.