Boys expectations when dating
It’s my observation, and I think many women will confirm this observation, that niceness showed to them by men always seems to come with some form of expectations attached.To make matters worse, those expectations are never quite clear. Will he become angered if he doesn’t get whichever one of these things he wants?We all know the current of discourse running through our social media feeds, our text conversations, internet threads and beyond — men bemoan the fact that women just can’t seem to settle down for a “nice guy” like themselves and seek to justify this claim with a gazillion examples of instances where someone is dating a not-so-nice person instead of them, proclaiming boastfully and loudly, Women, on the other hand, are quite clear about their ideas, their expectations, their desires, and their wants, and a quick glance of many of the women writing here on Medium, especially the feminists, will show that women have no shortage of things to say when it comes to their critiques of men in contemporary society and what they want…if only the men who commit to these practices and say these things were listening, but they wrote off women a long time ago as somehow being not worth listening to, while simultaneously complaining about a lack of action or so much as a date.Men seem to intuit as wrongly as they do naturally that if they were only just bigger jerks, women would love them.(I know you know that they are different than us in fundamental ways.) You know I’m a dating and relationship coach and I guide women dating after 40 to love.I constantly witness potential relationships go up in flames because of women’s unrealistic dating expectations.
Two people meet, and if they are “right” for each other, like magic, everything will fall into place.If you missed it, here are the links: Part 1: Are You Waiting for Some Type of Fantasy Man?Part 2: Should You Trust Your Instincts About Dating and Love?” I can tell you with 99% certainty that, no, they are not. But when I was dating I definitely kept some kind of tally in my brain. Most of us tend to do this…especially when it comes to making decisions about men.And that may be the very thing that is keeping you single. [If you’re short of time click here and jump to a super juicy training I recorded for you.] The expectations can just as easily muck up a relationship. (If you’re questioning whether you do this, think about the conversations you have with your girlfriends after a date. ) It only takes a few minus points to send us running from a man that we just met or just started dating. Once introduced into the complicated dating mix, our disappointment ultimately sabotages any chance of things ending well. Because with these false expectations in the way, women are missing REAL gifts that so many men are out there waiting to give.