Courtship and dating so what39s the difference

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In some religious communities, the two never speak to each other and the parents do the matchmaking.

Romanticism has put a particular glow on the whole idea of courting, with novels of authors such as Jane Austen and the Bronte sisters painting a picture of Victorian courtship practices.

The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.

Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage were not conducted at all.

The purpose of dating is to find out as much as possible about the other person before investing in a relationship or giving up on personal space and freedom.

You sometimes wish there was a different way to find a life partner – something similar to how people used to do it centuries ago, maybe.

Courting, when allowed by the parents, was done with the purpose of getting married.

By contrast, dating places the choice of a partner fully in the hands of the two people directly involved.

I intend to expose the flaws I see in today's dating model, and at the same time point out how Biblical courtship addresses these flaws.

As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to seek and serve God, and fulfill our destiny in Him. We need to find out what God's plan for relationships is, and then follow it. Let's study what we are doing now against what God has described in His word, and draw up a new standard. Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.

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