Dating an asian woman
Because of Asian fetish, an Asian woman’s racial difference is either seen as a failure to conform to mainstream white standards of beauty, or as something that can be appreciated only on an alternative scale.
NPR correspondent Elise Hu offers that this can be a source of insecurity in Asian women's dating lives, asking: "Am I just loved because I'm part of an ethnic group that's assumed to be subservient, or do I have actual value as an individual, or is it both? In the other direction, it has been argued that the notion of an Asian fetish creates the unnecessary and erroneous perception of multiracial relationships as being characterized by "patriarchal, racist power structures" in relationships.
A 1998 Washington Post article states 36% of young Asian Pacific American men born in the United States married White women, and 45% of U.
S.-born Asian Pacific American women took White husbands during the year of publication. In preparation for a documentary on Asian fetish called Seeking Asian Female, Chinese-American filmmaker Debbie Lum interviewed non-Asian men who posted online personal ads exclusively seeking Asian women.
Writer Agness Kaku believes the mainstream white culture undermines efforts to combat sexual harassment based on Asian fetish.
Noting how frequently women of Asian descent are subjected to verbal and online harassment, Kaku argues that Asian fetish "thrives on double standards that make light of racial bias against Asians" and states this downplaying leaves women vulnerable to stalking and violence.
Asian fetish places a psychological burden on Asian women, who are forced to cope with constant doubt and suspicion that men who find them attractive are preoccupied with their Asian status rather than other traits or characteristics.
The doubt that targets of Asian fetish experience stems from feelings of depersonalization, which compound on the objectification Asian females already face as women, to create a further sort of objectification where Asian women feel like interchangeable objects.
Lum described the stereotype associated with an Asian fetish as an obsession with seeking "somebody submissive, traditional, docile...
The white men interviewed fantasize that an Asian woman possesses both beauty and brains, Sexually, the men in these interviews had a commonality.
They all believed that Asian women have submissive sex.
An Asian fetish is an obsession with or objectification of Asian people, culture, or things of Asian origin by those of non-Asian descent, especially when it is related to stereotyping.
It applies to the enthusiasms experienced by some non-Asian people for such things as Asian cinema, An Asian fetish is distinct from an interracial partnership.